Lying, why?

I am working through feelings and issues that impact me and my family. Addiction, co-dependency and dysfunction used to put an undue burden on my life and my heart and contributed a block in my creativity. Over time, and most importantly through faith in a real and living God, healthier ways of living and coping are being sought and implemented in my life. Journaling is one tool on the road to healing. It helps me process and understand things in a more productive way.
Truthful lips endure forever,
but a lying tongue is but for a moment.
-Proverbs 12:19

The enemy has really been coming after me lately with lying. It's a hassle, to be sure, but I keep reminding myself that this is God's battle not mine. It's God's job to fight for me and vindicate me, if necessary. I am His child and I belong to Him. It's my job to remain faithful to Him and do what He says. Still it hurts. It hurts when people who I have only tried to care for and be good to, for some reason have targeted me with untruthful reports. I can only guess as to why this happens, but I can be an ambassador for peace and step up to rectify the situation. Which is what my husband (in the role of my pastor) advised me to do in one situation. So, I went forth, with this in mind, as an ambassador and asked, more or less, "What is wrong here and what can I do to rectify it?" It seemed to completely diffuse the situation and make things right, and that is my hopeful prayer, though I have learned that only time will tell.

photo by bof1391
In another particular situation, I confronted an already estranged loved one with their lies, when I discovered them. They responded by further alienating themselves. There was already a wall between us, and they raised it another few feet and added some barbed wire and a lock. They are the one who lied, and I am being treated like the perpetrator, not only by this loved one but by others who seem to defend them by treating me with disdain. Why does my loved one seem to get a pass from others when they lie and engage in other hurtful behaviour? Why do I get a tongue-lashing and a cold shoulder for calling them on their behaviour? My heart is a little sick with hurt over this unfair treatment, I feel a little like the Biblical David did here. How long with this nonsense go on? As long as there is an evil enemy loose in this world. I am reminded of the old quote, ‘The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.’ I refuse to do nothing anymore. I refuse to walk on eggshells, sugar-coat, pretend nothing is wrong. I will also do what I can to reconcile, as I tried above. I will call a spade a spade and I suppose I will have to live with the fall out from that.